This blog is one of those… Did you know that in 1996 the 1st of the 78 million trend inspiring Baby Boomer generation turned 50? Wow! I watch TV, movies, commercials and see some of the most beautiful and handsome people out there and they are in their 40’s and 50’s+. Funny, I will never get rid of my mirror. I know that I am 55, but I swear in my head I feel 27 and my mirror certainly doesn’t say that!! But I don’t see 55 either.. I don’t have the aches and pains, I have fun and darn it I still want to have sex with my husband. There I said it.
Couples at 50 can have a richer, fuller and more mature sex life than ever before. Sure sex does change as we age, but that can be good news. Performance anxieties and many common sex problems occur much more often when you are younger. As we age, we just know better… With medications, and additional aids on the market we have benefits that youngsters might not 🙂
*Greater sophistication about our own and our partner’s sexuality.
*Increased capability of communicating our sexual and emotional need without fear of “looking silly” or being rejected or misunderstood by the one we love.
*Improved sexual responsiveness in women and a corresponding improved ability to control ejaculation in men.
*Greater willingness to experiment with sexual variations.
*Lessened inhibitions and increased ability to “have fun” with lovemaking.
*And far greater technical proficiency as lovers.
Sex Over 50
We also know our partners better at this point in our life. Whether married for many years or starting again, we are wiser in so many more areas than we were in our 20’s and 30’s. We know each other’s moods, the right and wrong buttons to push (or avoid), we know all the special spots that turn them on… Psychoanalyst Carl Jung described the term “contrasexual transition”, typically men and women cross sexual and psychological paths at midlife. Women become more independent and assertive, less in need of reassurance or approval. Whereas men become more nurturing, more comfortable with intimacy and able to share themselves in ways they never could before.
However, there are still those naysayers who subscribe that passion is only for the young 😦
Others fail to believe that our bodies changes present opportunities for better sex, not obstacles to it. While some fail to experiment with change. Many just allow life (stress, money, kids, body image, extended family) stifle their sexuality.
Many people, especially women dread the “empty nest” or when the children leave home… Please make this a time to renew your relationship both emotionally, physiologically and sexually with your partner. For many years you have both been covered up with “kid stuff”. It’s overdue for you time!
Here’s what I say… Years ago I heard, 40 is the new 30. Now 50 is the new 40. When I grew up Carol and Mike Brady (The Brady Bunch) slept in twin beds. Now you practically see soft porn on TV (not to say that is a good thing by any stretch of the imagination), but it is a new generation.
It’s not the days when some Mom’s and Dad’s had separate bedrooms. We have more remarriage. And realistically, we need to keep the home fires burning (or someone else might try).
Be young at heart and everywhere else too.