I have been accused of being quite a “character”. Why? For good or bad, I’m not shy, don’t mind to stand out in a crowd or give my opinion. And I laugh, a lot!
I have always heard that what doesn’t kill you makes your stronger… Gives you character. Crap, no wonder I have character! I am certainly not dead, and have been broken more times than I can count. If you are a fighter (parent, athlete, anyone who wants more) you know that you always get back up. You don’t always want to! It hurts, sometimes it’s slow, most of the time it’s emotional. But it’s just something that you do.
You can be a willow tree and bend, twist with the wind, be blown to the ground numerous times before you break. You are strong and flexible and these are wonderful qualities! However, even willows can be broken. Twisters, hurricanes, divorces, death, sickness are the unexpectedness of life. Just when you think you have everything under control, the rug is pulled right out from under you… How do you react? Does your life stop? Or do you pick up the pieces? We do it at different speeds. But it is a necessity that we get on with life. Please do not misunderstand me. Grief is certainly a process in this, but not a lifelong process.
We have but one lifetime. And we have those around us that care. Look to us. For strength, direction, care, concern and love. Sometimes we get it right and sometimes it takes a while to get a semblance of right. But you get out of it what you put in… No one can “fix” you until you are ready to be healed. Willows who break sometimes can have a more difficult time recovering from a break then others. They don’t expect what’s coming.
Or you can be an intricate piece of glass. Many sides and facets to you. Interesting and beautiful, but easily breakable. Those people are more knowledgeable about breakage, but when broken it is into millions of pieces. The process of healing can be different. Repeat. Repeat. Repeat. The receptiveness of breaking is damage itself. The rebuilding process for the glass people is more like precast concrete (precast concrete: a type of concrete that is pre-manufactured off-site and then transported and installed on-site at a later date, the concrete is less susceptible to storm damage than the traditional wood planks used in the past and is built to withstand the high velocity winds of hurricanes that commonly occur on east coast beaches). Building themselves stronger and stronger each time they break!
Point being, no one is perfect! We all have issues. Sorrows. Divorce, death, sickness, dysfunctional families, money problems, need I go on? It is how we handle our issues when they arise. Don’t be ashamed! Tomorrow will come whether you want it to or not. Pull on your big girl panties (big boy boxers) and do the best you can one baby step at a time. If you need professional help, get it! It’s 2013, for God’s sake! There is nothing to be ashamed about. What is to be ashamed about is, not doing anything about your issues and letting them overtake your life, your family and your livelihood without asking for help.